Thursday, November 26, 2020

Count Your Covid Blessings




 Thanksgiving 2020


Thanksgiving for me has been different every year since I married.  For many years, we would come to Birmingham and eat 2 Thanksgiving dinners, one at noon and another a few hours later.  I can empathize with my adult children who try to juggle holidays.  And in a pandemic, it is even worse.  Today, I'm just writing a note of encouragement to everyone that is trying to make this day a day of gratitude in a year that has been anything but normal. 

I love my family and want to be with them whenever possible.  The last time we were together for Thanksgiving was 2018.  The picture at the top of this blog is  of me and my siblings taken on that beautiful Thursday afternoon.  It was our first Thanksgiving together without parents. My mom died in 2014 and my dad in 2016.  

On Monday evening, when I found out my Thanksgiving plans had changed for the 3rd time, I decided to take matters into my own hands.  I had been gathering things for weeks to take to my siblings when I saw them on Thanksgiving.  Since that wasn't possible, my husband agreed to drive me on a 24-hour trip to Birmingham, a sort of progressive Thanksgiving.  


 It started with me picking up some Krispy Kreme doughnuts, 
glazed and chocolate covered creamed filled, (my mother's favorite) 
and enjoying a porch visit with my niece and her family. 
She had her second child a few weeks ago. 


At 9:30, Bill & I picked up my brother and went to his daughter's house.
She and her husband had purchased their first house last year
 and I had never seen it.  



She joined us in visiting my brother and sister-in-law. 
They were hosting Thanksgiving this year until she tested positive.  
We waved at her as we stood on the porch
 and she peered out her bedroom door
 and my brother waved at the camera. 

  
It was then on to deliver my sister's birthday gift.  
(John was born on her 35th birthday-
you do the math).  Her son lives
in Birmingham and was willing
to deliver her gift to Auburn 
Thanksgiving morning.  


We finished our Progressive Covid Thanksgiving 
at Johnny's restaurant in Homewood. 
My brother's youngest son joined us for lunch.



Bill & I then drove home to Tennessee.  
As we were driving north on Interstate 65, 
I told him 'I love my family' and in true Bill style, 
he said 'and I love you' and he does.  

Today, we will watch the parade, zoom with our older kids and grands
 and have dinner with John and his new girlfriend. 
Thanksgiving food is not his favorite 
so we will be enjoying a precooked brisket
 from Sam's, potatoes and salad!!  

Not the traditional Thanksgiving feast, 
but in a year that has been anything but traditional, 
I am grateful for my Covid blessings.  

Happy Thanksgiving to you and yours,
Allyson


PS - Here is the prayer my dad prayed
 at our family Thanksgiving 2015.  
For some reason, I decided to videotape it.  
It was the last time we would hear him pray.  
He died a few weeks later.  





Sunday, May 10, 2020


'My Ability to Ruin my Child's Life . . .'

Today is my 39th official Mother's Day.  I was expecting my first child in August, 1981.  Believe it or not, I was at the same church and city where I am today.  Many years and miles have passed and in many ways, I have more regret than anything about my mothering.  The enemy attacks here on a regular basis.

Several days ago, I read a quote by Susan Alexander Yates who is a regular guest on the Moms In Prayer Podcast (for those of you as old as me, this is what was called Moms in Touch).  She said

Your ability ruin your child
is not nearly as great as 
God's power to redeem them.  

That really spoken to me. Hindsight is 20/20 (how appropriate is that?) That is  the clear vision of what I should have done in so many situations over the years.   This morning I heard the Lord speaking to my spirit saying 'Trust me' and then again in this tone 'Trust ME'  How many times have I quoted Proverbs 3:5-6,  Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.  In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will direct your paths.' I did not even have to look it up to type it out. I know it that well.   

My prayer on this Mother's Day 2020 is help ME to trust YOU!!  I am weary and weak.  Parenting is hard!! That is all.
This picture was taken 15 years ago at my parent's 50th Wedding Anniversary Celebration
It was one of the last official family photos
before we began adding others to our official photos!!